Dec 4, 2020
“Six Bulletproof Ways to Become a Better Man”
Years ago, I was invited to a friend’s ranch to hunt doves in a Central Valley almond orchard. As we neared the property my buddy said, “Okay I have a few rules you have to follow. Rule 1 (pointing his finger across the street): Never step foot in or mention that Minimart right there because the owner’s wife had an affair with one of our family members. Rule 2: Never pronounce the ‘L’ sound when saying almond since we beat the ‘L’ out of them. And Rule 3: Don’t ask my Dad about why he limps. His lower leg was shot off in a hunting accident.”
I still chuckle every time I remember that speech but am reminded that none of us are bulletproof. I’ve always taught my sons to respect the empty gun. Many have died thinking the gun in their hands was empty.
No one is bulletproof.
A New Kind of Bulletproof
Last week we interviewed founder of the New Kind of Man Podcast, Chad Zueck on the Men in the Arena Podcast. Chad is a Lead Pastor in Dublin, Georgia, who has been working in men’s ministry for over 18 years, and is about to release his first book, Six Bulletproof Ways to Become a Better Man.
No man is bulletproof in this life, but we can trust God to make us into the best version of ourselves and able to withstand the battles of life, which reminds me of Paul’s words in Ephesians 6:12-16b, “For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms. 13 Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to 16 … extinguish all the flaming arrows of the evil one.”
Here are Chad’s six bulletproof ways to become a better man.
1. Tap into the “Source”
We’ve been saying for years that no man will become his best version in this life apart from radical devotion to Jesus Christ. We must stop using the shallow medium of money as a measuring rod, since Jesus had no home (Matthew 8:20) and was supported by others.
How can anyone ever think they can reach the full potential of who they truly are without trusting fully in the God who created him? Do you want to be bulletproof? Good! Give your life to Jesus Christ!
2. Live in “Submission”
I love the word submission. The Greek word for submission was originally a military word designating ranking. Submission is to willingly, decisively, trust a higher-ranking officer, until we are no longer subject to their authority.
It is disheartening to see so many once dynamic followers of Jesus with the hollow look in their eyes that says, “I couldn’t do it. It was just too tough to submit and obey God.”
It’s one thing to tap into the Source but it’s quite another to stay tapped in. Jesus said it best in John 15:1-8. We must abide and remain in relationship with Him.
3. Embrace “Sonship”
Know who you are and know whose you are. Most of the pain I see among believers today can be traced back to fathering. Brian Doyle, founder of Iron Sharpens Iron Men’s Conferences, regularly says that Fathering is the most requested seminar topic at their event.
I was personally transformed once I realized that God was a good Father (Matthew 7:11) who wanted the best for me, and not some angry, indifferent, and impersonal Creator. He is my Father.
4. Bless others by your “Strength”
We are most vulnerable to the enemy (John 10:10) after we tap into the Source, willingly submit to Him, and embrace our sonship, if we hoard our strength to ourselves.
John Eldredge in his classic Wild at Heart wrote, “Let the world feel the full weight of who you are and let them deal with it.”
Hoarding our strength is little more than spiritual masturbation. James was right when he wrote, “Faith without works is dead.”
5. Lock arms for “Support”
I once argued against a pastor who said, “We don’t need fellowship. We only need the Holy Spirit in our lives.”
This is not true in Scripture (John 13:34-35) nor in human experience. The fact is we need each other. I recently shared in a sermon on our podcast that God shapes us but he uses other men to sharpen us (Proverbs 27:17). I believe this with the deepest conviction.
6. Finish the cycle and “Serve”
Points 1-5 are moot without completing the cycle. Our tagline is, “When a man gets it—everyone wins!” When a man understands what it means to be a follower of Jesus and what his masculine role is, he becomes a servant of others and he imitates Jesus, “Who, being in very nature God, did not consider equality with God something to be used to his own advantage; rather, he made himself nothing by taking the very nature of a servant, being made in human likeness. And being found in appearance as a man, he humbled himself by becoming obedient to death— even death on a cross!” (Philippians 2:6-8).