WHAT IS THE TRUTH ABOUT COURAGE AND MASCULINITY

"Myths and Misconceptions about Both"



Of Guts and Manhood

I am days away from finishing my newest book, Of Guts and Manhood: Four Irrefutable Attributes of Courage, which will be offered as a free download for a month only starting mid-August. After that, it is going to print. Learn more on our website!
          This is a monumental work on courage. I documented each of the 57 times the word courage is mentioned in the New American Standard Bible (NASB) as well as New International Version (NIV) and discovered something about courage that I have never read before. There are life-changing truths about courage that I can't wait for you to learn. If you want to be your most courageous self, then you need this resource in your library. 



Strong Men Dangerous Times
We are living in dangerous times. COVID-19 had the world under attack. Police are under attack. Politicians are under attack. Our politicians are under attack. If you think men of color are under attack then it's time to crawl out from under your rock and take a long, hard look at reality. Men of all colors are under attack—white, black, red, yellow, purple, green—if you are a man, then you are under the systematic gender bias against the modern man. The subtle rage towards masculinity is all over the news, television sitcoms, and movies.
          Men and women who were wounded by males masquerading as men are at every turn. And they are speaking out, and their ignorant generalizations are doing tremendous damage to the unsung heroes of our world who are the true men, silently getting it done and make this world a better place.
          These are dangerous times to be a man for sure. These are exciting times indeed! It is time to fight back, not with our angry social media rants but with a holy life set apart for God.
          The fall release of my new book, Strong Men Dangerous Times guides men towards their best version by clearly identifying what a man truly is. It is the best book I've ever seen on clearly, definitively, defining manhood and should be in every man's library (if I don't say so myself!). In it, I unpack five essentials of manhood after unpacking five myths and misconceptions.
          Jesus is calling men, true men, from the storm saying, "Take courage; it is I, do not be afraid” (Mark 6:50).



6 Myths of Manhood

According to Google Dictionary, a myth is, "a traditional or legendary story, usually concerning some hero or event, with or without a determinable basis of fact or a natural explanation, and which explains some practice, rite, or phenomenon of nature."
          Google defines a misconception as, "a wrong or inaccurate idea."
          When we combine the two, we get that a myth and misconception is, "traditionally an inaccurate idea about men (the hero) without a determinable basis of fact."
          Here are six myths and misconceptions about manhood discussed in Strong Men Dangerous Times. First, contrary to the myth, manhood is not defined by a job or title. What's the first question after every introduction between men? What you do doesn't define you.
          Second, a man is not his financial portfolio. The ability to make money and the ability to act like a man are different. They are often bipolar. Did you know that Jesus was strategically homeless for at least three or four years of his life? He said of himself, "Foxes have dens and birds have nests, but the Son of Man has no place to lay his head” (Matthew 8:20). Wealth does not mean that one man is stronger than another.
          Third, a man is not defined by his talents and abilities. Think about this. If your metrics are exceptional along with throwing accuracy, you can be a twenty-year old millionaire in the Major League as a pitcher. You may be on television commercials and have thousands of fans cheering every time you step on the mound.
          But it doesn't make you a man.
          Fourth, manhood doesn't happen at a certain age. Chronology does not equate to manhood. Action does. A man is as a man does. Almost daily I witness forty, fifty, and sixty-year old men who are males but not men. They are boys masquerading in a man's body.
          Fifth, a man is not his anatomy. Just as reaching the age of pubic hair does not turn a male into a man neither does having a penis. Men aren't born. Babies are born. Children are raised. But men, oh men, they're forged in the fires of responsibility, compounded daily over time. A man is made. And after he's been made, a man acts like a man.
          Lastly, and the most important myth we must dispel "looking" like a man does not make it so. A strong man is not about his image, it's about his action. Have I said this before? We have a hugely mistaken stereotype that a man is built, talks, and dresses a certain way. Just because he is built like a bodybuilder, wears a flannel with his jeans and boots, drives a big truck, and swings an ax for a living means nothing. Some of the weakest, most childish men I know have looked like "tough guys". I have a suggestion for all you “tough guys” out there. Stop trying to act like a strong man and start living like one.



3 Misconceptions about Courage

Similar to the six myths surrounding manhood, there at least three misconceptions that Jesus followers commonly believe about Biblical courage. Let me correct these distortions.
          Courage is not a spiritual gift.
In 1 Corinthians 12:1-30, 14:1-39, and Romans 12:1-8 Paul spent a great deal of time explaining the spiritual gifts. I have taken dozens of spiritual gifts tests over the years and have never seen "courage" listed among them. It's simply not there because it is not a gift God gives to certain of His followers. It sounds weird admitting this but it's true. God never gifts any person with courage in the Bible—ever.
          He didn't' t give it to Abraham. He didn't give it to Noah. He didn't give it to David. He didn't' give it to Solomon. He didn't' give it Samson. He didn't give it to Peter. He didn't give it to Paul. He didn't give it to you. And He didn't give it to Jesus.
          It is a misinterpretation of Scripture to claim it as such.
          Courage is not a fruit of the Spirit.
This is much simpler to explain because there is only one reference listing fruits of the spirit. In Galatians 5:22-23 Paul lists nine, "But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law."
          One could argue that Paul identifies two more fruits of the Spirit in Ephesians 5:8-9, adding "righteousness" and "truth" to the list; "for you were formerly darkness, but now you are Light in the Lord; walk as children of Light (for the fruit of the Light consists in all goodness and righteousness and truth)."
          But again. Courage is nowhere to be seen.
          Courage is not one of the Ten Commandments. Of all of the things God could have commanded His people to do in Exodus 20:1-17, one would think living courageous lives would be one of them. Men in the Arena was launched from my final church assignment at the Church on the Hill in McMinnville, Oregon where our vision was, "Courageously following Christ." And I loved it even though God never listed it among His Ten Commandments. When asked which was the greatest Commandment, I am sure that courage was far from his mind when he answered, "You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, and with all your soul, and with all your mind.” This is the great and foremost commandment. (Matthew 26:36-40)"
          Then why is courage vital to the Christian faith? Why are some of the bravest people in human history followers of Jesus who courageously died because of their faith in Christ?
          Before the Apostle Paul was beheaded, he issued a warning to all who follow Jesus, "Indeed, all who desire to live godly in Christ Jesus will be persecuted” (2 Timothy 3:12).
          Something much deeper is going on here.

Boots on the Ground
I hear your boots stomping in the dirt, "When can I get a hold of this book?!" You're gonna have to wait a few more weeks. We will let you know but the window of opportunity will be small. Be prepared!

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