Equipping Blog Posts

  • What Great Men Do That Others Do Not

    I blame my sore shoulders on Wess Stafford’s inspiring book, Just a Minute. It was an honor to have Wess on the Men in the Arena Podcast to hear his heart for children. I’ve interviewed hundreds of great men. Men who have founded denominations, built global ministries, and sold millions of books, but Wess stands above them all. As the president of Compassion International, Wess grew to the organization to a 500-million-dollar annual budget, 84% going directly to children, with over 2 million sponsored children globally.
  • What Great Fathers Tell Their Sons and Daughters

    When researching a free resource to offer to men living in the Stress Bubble of life (aka The Arena), I came across this gem in the depths of my computer files. Misty-eyed I gently read over each of the “Tell him” statements I used as a personal guide in raising my wonderful sons: James, Darby, and Colton. Although I have edited the book to include sons and daughters, my experience is with my three sons who are now fine men—believe in Jesus, earned bachelor’s degrees, have great careers, and love people.
  • How to Outlive Your Life on Purpose

     It’s never too late to think about your legacy. I’ve been working towards that end for 30 years with my journaling, personal vision statement, and eulogy. Yes, I wrote my dream eulogy.

                I firmly believe that whatever you put to the grindstone will be remembered on your tombstone. I’ve never heard a dying man say he wish he’d spent more time at the office. Think about those who will be crying at your death bed and answer three legacy questions that Rex uses to challenge men:

  • September Newsletter

    In 2012 we launched this ministry out of a coffee shop in my hometown of McMinnville, Oregon. As things open, we will be giving back to the town we love in the Arena Gathering, which was growing rapidly last year but we were compelled to shut it down due to COVID. Pray for wisdom, leaders, and a location as we launch what we believe will be the largest weekly gathering for men in the history of our county.  
  • 4 Easy Ways to Initiate Spiritual Conversations in Everyday Life

    Before I fell in love with Shanna she was one of my volunteers with Youth for Christ and Campus Life. I knew she was special before we even started dating when she passionately shared something I’ll never forget, “You’re either a missionary or mission field.”

                Not only is she right but she lives by this code.

  • One Simple Habit to Make Your Mark An Exclamation Not A Question Mark

     There are finishes and there are strong finishes. They are not the same. Sometimes a finish is a wrong finish. A divorce is a wrong finish. A suicide is a wrong finish. Getting fired from your job for reasons you could have avoided is a wrong finish. To live selfishly in retirement, refusing to impact others with your experiences, wisdom, and expertise is a wrong finish. It may be the most tragic finish of them all.

    As a young man carrying eighty pounds out of the mountains, I struggled to maintain footing on the descent. Being an avid backpacker and getting sick of my constant slipping, my hunting partner Darby instructed, “Jimmy, nose over toes. Always keep your nose over your toes.”
  • How To Reach Your Full Capacity As A Man

    George Mallory was an English mountaineer who took part in the first three British expeditions to summit Mount Everest in the 1920’s. Mallory died in 1924 attempting to summit the highest mountain in the world.

                Among other things, he’s remembered by a famous quote when was asked, “Why do you want to climb Mt. Everest?”

                He simply replied, “Because it’s there.”

  • Apathy: The Greatest Battle a Man Will Fight

        My hunting partner Darby whispered these words of encouragement from behind

    me in between breaths as we climbed the sheer mountain face with packs, weighted with my New Mexico mule deer. I’m not sure if his words were meant to encourage me or self-talk himself up the mountain—but it worked.

                Similarly, I once asked my father-in-law how he marched for so many miles with such heavy pack loads during his Marine days, and his response was simply, “Slow and steady, slow and steady.”


    Men, be warned. If you lack integrity, you lack everything. You’ll never become the man God designed you to be. Pack your life with all the characteristics needed to be a whole man, complete and lacking nothing (James 1:4). Commit to being impeccable in your integrity. Climb through your life without excess baggage, having to resupply, or getting killed (or killing someone else for that matter) somewhere on the way!

  • Tell Them: What Great Fathers Tell Their Sons and Daughters

    “I recently contacted QuickBooks support after hours.  To get the help I needed, I entered a chat with a QuickBooks Support Professional.  The entire chat lasted over 3 hours because I had to save new files, change older files, then reload the other files over it.  While waiting for files to load, etc... we started talking and she asked what Men in the Arena was.  I told her about the organization and that the Men in the Arena Podcast was listened to all over the world. She told me she has a boyfriend that wanted to get married, but she wasn't going to marry someone who wasn’t a Christian.           

    She started listening to an episode while helping me, since she was working remotely from her home in Costa Rica, and he was in the room. By the time we were off the chat, she had listened to two of the podcasts and noticed her boyfriend was listening too, and very much interested. 

    A couple months later she sent me a message letting me know that her boyfriend was a regular podcast listener, had given his life to Christ, and asked her to marry him. She said yes, of course!”

  • THE LIE OF TECHNOLOGY IN EFFECTIVE FATHERING -The Shocking Practices of Digital Founding Fathers and Why They Do Them

    I’ve never considered myself a multi-tasker but often envied this quality in others—until now. In Digital Cocaine Huddleston wrote, “Neuroscience has learned that the human brain cannot multitask. Instead, we task switch, which is rapidly switching from one task to another, and when we do, our productivity decreases by as much as 40%.”