Equipping Blog Posts

  • What Great Fathers Tell Their Sons and Daughters

    When researching a free resource to offer to men living in the Stress Bubble of life (aka The Arena), I came across this gem in the depths of my computer files. Misty-eyed I gently read over each of the “Tell him” statements I used as a personal guide in raising my wonderful sons: James, Darby, and Colton. Although I have edited the book to include sons and daughters, my experience is with my three sons who are now fine men—believe in Jesus, earned bachelor’s degrees, have great careers, and love people.
  • THE LIE OF TECHNOLOGY IN EFFECTIVE FATHERING -The Shocking Practices of Digital Founding Fathers and Why They Do Them

    I’ve never considered myself a multi-tasker but often envied this quality in others—until now. In Digital Cocaine Huddleston wrote, “Neuroscience has learned that the human brain cannot multitask. Instead, we task switch, which is rapidly switching from one task to another, and when we do, our productivity decreases by as much as 40%.”
  • REFLECTIONS OF FATHER’S DAY

          My first celebration of the day was in 1994 shortly after the birth of my oldest son, James, and my most recent was yesterday. It was a good day. I am now reaping the rewards of parenting in the Stress Bubble when the boys were younger and still in the home.
  • DAD WISDOM: PART II, Words of Wisdom for Fathers

    As a follower of Jesus, pop culture and social norms fall victim to truth. They must. The non-conformist Apostle Paul said in 1 Corinthians 1:25, Because the foolishness of God is wiser than men, and the weakness of God is stronger than men.” 

    And again in 1 Corinthians 2:4-6, “My message and my preaching were (a) demonstration of the Spirit and of power, so that your faith would not rest on the wisdom of men, but on the power of God. Yet we do speak wisdom among those who are mature; a wisdom, however, not of this age nor of the rulers of this age, who are passing away.

    Our guest Kenny Joyner shared #11-21 of his timeless Words of Wisdom for fathers...

  • THE DAUGHTER WHISPERER: A Relationship-Changing Acrostic for Dads of Daughters

     It is critical that our daughters are secure in our love for them. In us, they must find a safe harbor to share their feelings, thoughts and worries. Michelle writes, “You see, a settledness takes hold in the depths of a woman’s being when she knows she doesn’t have to shout above all the noise just to be heard. And a power takes root in her when she fully believes that she matters because what she thinks and feels matters...
  • SURVIVAL GEAR - 7 Tools Needed for the Fatherhood Adventure

    In my daily devotional, The Field Guide: A Bathroom Book for Men, “Wyoming Nights” recounts a dangerous night of suffering hypothermia while hunting the high country of Wyoming and needing their body to survive the night. It is an embarrassing yet memorable event. Click the link to read about it my short story, “California Rodeo in Wyoming.”

                From that memorable night in 2001 I learned to carry the proper survival gear needed for every contingency. So often we pack our fears, filling our lives with worthless items, to the neglect of those necessary to be the best father to our children.

  • 5 Wise Tips for the Smart Stepdad - How to Become a Better Stepdad

    In the United States 50% of children will have a stepparent at some point in their lifetime, and 90% of children in step-families live with their mom and stepdad. Forty percent of children from divorce will not see their dad for an entire year, which places an added burden on stepdads.
              Stepchildren who have good relationships with both their stepfather and their nonresident biological father have better outcomes than children who have good relationships with just their father...